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The Art Of Being A Working Mom - Women are the masters of time management.

Caesar Rondina, Author | Public Speaker
Mar 24
8 min read

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INTRODUCTION:

Greetings. I often analyze the data on the number of requests for topics I receive from men and women. The number of requests I receive from women is far greater than from men. Why do you think that is? Are men afraid to ask questions? Do they feel that asking a question is a sign of weakness? These are difficult questions because most men will not commit to answering them. As a man, I am far less likely to ask others questions about specific topics. Much of this comes from upbringing and differences in generational thinking.

I grew up in an era when men worked and women stayed home to run the house and raise the kids. The man's job was to make the money. Those days are long gone unless you come from a wealthy background or have the income to sustain that lifestyle. In addition, women have changed. Women now enjoy exploring their career goals and branching out from the traditional role they held for decades. I agree that women are equals and should examine and pursue their goals.

However, this does not change their role as moms. They do not have that luxury. Ties are different, and many men contribute to various household tasks. That said, the primary responsibility, in general, of running the home still sits in the woman's lap. With all rules, there are exceptions; note that I stated in general. There are more stay-at-home dads in today's society than ever before. This can be for various reasons. For this post, I am focusing on the role of the working mom. This takes nothing away from whatever arrangement others may have and certainly does not diminish anyone's input into the relationship. Let's move on.

THE WORKING MOM:

In today's society, many men work full-time and part-time, and the mother figure also works full-time, or part-time. But when children are involved, the mother figure between partners has the job of running the house, the kids, and all the other responsibilities that go with that. To this day, if you go by any practice field for younger children playing sports, it's the mother more than the dad's that are there. Go into any grocery store and see who pushes the cart with their children.

Let's examine the role of a working mom who balances a professional and personal life.

In today's fast-paced world, the working mom has emerged as a significant pillar of both the family structure and the workforce. Broadening the traditional perception of motherhood, working moms are not just caretakers and nurturers but also career-oriented individuals who strive to balance their personal and professional lives.

One of the most critical roles of a working mom is her contribution to the household income. As the cost of living increases and dual-income households become more common, working mothers are pivotal in providing financial stability. According to the U.S. Bureau of Labor Statistics, approximately 70% of mothers with children under 18 are in the labor force, and their financial contributions are crucial for meeting family needs, saving for education, and planning for retirement.

Despite their professional responsibilities, working moms often take on the bulk of caregiving tasks, setting up a delicate balancing act. This includes everything from daily chores and meal preparation to attending school functions and managing children's extracurricular activities. Working moms frequently juggle these responsibilities, sometimes sacrificing personal time to meet their children's needs. Therefore, they are great at time management.

The father figure may often go from their day-time job to their part-time job in the evenings—I did that for years. Therefore, working moms frequently serve as integral role models for the next generation. Their ability to manage careers while nurturing their families instills values of hard work, resilience, and independence in their children. Many daughters aspire to emulate their mothers' careers, while sons learn the importance of gender equality in the family and professional settings.

Modern working mothers often engage in community activities, from volunteering in schools to participating in local parenting groups. While the working mom wears many hats, maintaining balance frequently leads to significant challenges.

The foremost obstacle for working moms is time management. Juggling work commitments with family responsibilities can lead to stress and burnout. Many working mothers report feeling overwhelmed by the demands of their dual roles, leading to the constant pressure of "finding time" for both work and home life.

Despite progress in gender equality, many working moms still face discrimination in the workplace. Issues such as unequal pay, lack of promotion opportunities, and stigma over taking maternity leave or flexible hours continue to persist. Research indicates that mothers often encounter biases that question their commitment to their careers, affecting their professional advancement.

Although some companies consistently evaluate these issues, change takes time.

Working mothers often grapple with guilt. Many feel torn between wanting to be the best at work and the best for their children. Societal expectations and cultural norms can amplify this guilt, putting pressure on mothers to excel in both realms, leading to feelings of inadequacy if or when they fall short.

Achieving a sustainable work-life balance remains a significant challenge. The rise of remote work and technological advances have blurred the lines between work and home life, making it difficult for working moms to "switch off" from work and be fully present with their families.

EVERY WOMAN NEEDS A SUPPORT SYSTEM:

Being divorced, I have dated many women who have children. One of the most common things I have heard is: "It's so nice to talk to another adult. Even at work, sometimes it feels like all I talk to is children." Building a strong support system within families can ease the burdens on working moms. Encouragement from partners, shared responsibilities, and support from extended family can create a collaborative environment and lessen feelings of isolation. Most importantly, providing mom with some time to herself.

Local communities might assist with childcare programs, parenting groups, and educational resources. Access to these services can significantly alleviate the pressures of parenting and allow working moms to focus on both their careers and their children. Encouraging self-care practices is essential for working moms to sustain their well-being. This can include activities that promote mental, emotional, and physical health, like exercise, meditation, or simply taking time for hobbies. By prioritizing their own well-being, working moms can recharge and better manage their responsibilities.

TIPS OF BEING A SUCCESSFUL WORKING MOM:

As I stated earlier, being a working mom is a unique and rewarding journey with its own challenges and triumphs. Balancing career aspirations with family responsibilities can be demanding, but with the right strategies, mindset, and support, you can thrive in both realms. Here's a comprehensive guide on how to succeed as a working mom.

Embrace balance, not perfection,
Focus on progress over perfection,
Planning and scheduling on a calendar is key,
Prioritize tasks, some things can wait,
Be flexible and don't panic. Things change,
Learn to say NO. Sometimes it just can't be done,
Establish your support system. Family, friends, your partner,
If you can afford, delegate tasks. Get your groceries delivered, or hire someone to clean,
Talk to others who are doing the same thing you are. Share ideas. Take turns moving the kids around to practices,
Maintain open communications with your family, friends, partner, and your job,
SCHEDULE SOME ME TIME EACH WEEK. !!! IMPORTANT !!!,
Keep up with your health,
Have a hobby; reading, yoga, anything that serves as a break for you,
Establish your internal family bonds and create events that you share as a family,
Assess and reassess and be open to changes.

Does this seem like a long list? Not really. You are probably already doing most of these, but you may be missing one or two key components.

SINGLE PARENTS:

The same concepts apply with one exception: if you are a single parent, you do not have a partner to assist you. Also, dating becomes a bit more challenging to fit into your schedule. Dating in itself is challenging, more so for a single parent. This is why having a support system is so important. It is also important to have open communications. I always let a potential partner know I had children. Especially when they were younger, it is not as critical once they are older and on their own. However, not everyone wants to be around younger children. Therefore, make it clear that you have younger children before you get involved and have to deal with relationship problems. It's easier to walk away from the start than after things have progressed.

We all have our needs, some more than others. Doesn't it make sense that both potential partners know the entire situation upfront? Therefore, be honest about your situation. Recognize that your primary responsibility is to your children. Being a single parent can come with its own set of challenges, so be proud of your role and let it shape your dating life. Understand that your dating choices will affect your children, which should guide your decisions.

Relationships take time to grow. As a single parent, you need to balance nurturing your budding romance with your commitments as a parent. Take things slowly, allowing the relationship to evolve naturally without undue pressure. Understand that not every date will lead to long-term compatibility. Recognizing that dating is a process and each encounter offers a learning opportunity can help alleviate some of the frustration that may arise.

Depending on their age, your children will likely have feelings and opinions about your dating life. Open a dialogue with them about what they think and validate their feelings. This strengthens your bond and ensures they feel secure in changes to their environment. Set your boundaries. Your new partner should know what behaviors are acceptable or unacceptable around your children.

Stay patient, be realistic, and always remain positive. Remember, you cannot take care of others until you have taken care of yourself. Understand that not every date will lead to long-term compatibility. Connect with other single parents. Sometimes these lead to dating opportunities. As much as you must take care of your children's needs, you still need to nurture your desires for companionship. If you approach it properly, you will find the right balance.

IN CLOSING:

The role of the working mom is multifaceted, encompassing financial contribution, emotional support, and community engagement while navigating societal challenges. Recognizing and supporting mothers' work in the workplace and at home is crucial for achieving a balance that fosters professional growth and family fulfillment. There are no guarantees that things in life will come easy. In most cases, the things you must work hard for are often the best choices.

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